Updated: Jan 21
Recently, I wrote a blog post for Surviveldr.com and I wanted to share it with you guys!
“Being in a long distance relationship is sort of like being in a relationship with a ghost. You feel a strong connection with them, you know they are there for you and they make an impact on your life but you just can’t physically feel or touch them all the time. But it’s a little more complicated than that and it’s hard to explain to someone who has never been in a long distance relationship what that’s like. So, of course, I understand when people are curious and have questions. However, I am so sick of people asking me the same routine questions all the time that if they actually put some thought into what they were asking, well….they wouldn’t have to ask. Or when people think it’s okay to comment on my love life like they have the authority to do so.
I am so tired of hearing things like…
Do you miss them?
Well, duh! Of course I miss the love of my life when they are a thousand miles away. Longing is one of the main components of a long distance relationship. In my opinion, it should also be one of the main components of any good relationship if done in a healthy way.
Aren’t you worried that they might cheat?
Cheating is just as easy to do a thousand miles away as it is when you live in the same house. Distance means nothing when it comes to cheating. And, quite frankly, no. My relationship relies heavily on trust and I made the choice to trust my partner no matter if they are right next to me or miles away.
Why don’t you just move in together or get married?
Here’s another one of my favorite questions. Obviously, one day I plan on closing the distance and possibly getting married. That would hopefully be the end goal of any relationship, however, I don’t think anyone really plans on being in a long distance relationship. You’ve made a life for yourself: a job, school, a home, friends. It’s a lot easier said than done to just pack up all your stuff and leave your entire life behind. It’s even harder to ask someone else to do the same.
So, are you actually serious?
I don’t think I would wait this long to see someone if I wasn’t serious… Besides that, just using them for sex would be rather difficult, now wouldn’t it?
Oh my gosh. I’m so sorry! That must be terrible!
Oh, so having a best friend that doubles as my significant other is terrible, huh? Being in love is just treacherous, isn’t it? Long distance relationships can be difficult, yes, but loving my significant other is the easiest thing I have ever done.
Aren’t you lonely all the time? Nope. I have a family. I have friends. I have a dog. Not lonely.
How can you have a real relationship?
You don’t even see each other. In my opinion, this one is the worst question. No relationship should ever be based off the physical aspects. I still communicate with my significant other, I still share my life with them and I still get to physically see him every couple of months. My relationship has not degraded or is any less of a relationship because we don’t see each other everyday, thank you very much.
Is being in a long distance relationship even worth it? Is being with the love of your life worth it? Question answered.”